Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships- Stephen Covey
Let’s talk about TRUST
One thing that often happens in relationships, is that we tend to define common terms by our own perceptions, opinions, and experiences. For example, if you ask someone to define love, you will get all sorts of definitions. The same is true with trust. One way we eliminate conflict in our relationships is by speaking the same language…meaning we have the same foundational understanding of concepts such as TRUST.
Think of the word trust for a moment. How do you define trust? Does your spouse understand your definition of and expectations surrounding trust? You will find that while some of us have the same expectations of how trust is to be demonstrated, others will differ significantly. Conversations around trust are so extremely important in relationships, otherwise we allow unrealistic and uncommunicated expectations to silently destroy our marriages. So let’s spend some time talking about what trust IS and what it is NOT.
Trust in the Bible literally means “a bold, confident, sure security or action based on that security” (KJV Dictionary). My favorite verse regarding trust is Proverbs 3:5: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”
Based on the biblical view, you cannot possess trust in people without first having a trusting relationship with God.
Trust is:
1. (n.) Assured resting of the mind on the integrity, veracity, justice, friendship, or other sound principle, of another person; confidence; reliance; reliance (KJV Dictionary, 2022).
Trust in relationships is key to its growth. Trust is one of the foundational pillars of unconditional love. Trust requires safety, vulnerability and faithfulness. You cannot LOVE without TRUST.
Trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them.
Trust helps us to overcome obstacles and trust creates a space for healing.
Here are a few strategies to help cultivate trust in your relationships:
1. Be true to your word and follow through with your actions.
2. Take time to make decisions and think before acting too quickly. Consider your spouse whenever you are making decisions.
3. Value your marriage, see everything from a team perspective and not an I perspective.
4. Always be honest.
5. Don’t hide your feelings but express them in a respectful and loving way.
6. Admit your mistakes.
7. Pray for the wisdom to honor your marriage in all that you do.
Remember that you have been given a divine gift, and that is the gift of choice. Today, choose L.O.V.E.
Check out this week's video on Strong Trust.
Have a Heart Centered Day!
Dr. Sha'